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Wednesday, July 11, 2018 by Teddy
Online Dating Email Examples that work with attractive girls
What makes a woman read the message you send her and then respond?
It’s not an easy question to answer but when you look around, some guys are getting women to respond almost every time.
What’s their secret? Do they know something you don’t?
The answer is Yes! They do!
And while they might not even know how they do it, they push the “attraction” triggers of women online.
How do I know this? Because I’ve done it… for years. And until recently, I didn’t know exactly how to explain how I was doing it.
But today, that all changes.
What Makes A Woman Read Your Email And Send You A Message Back?
There’s a graduate of the University of Wisconsin-Madison (where I went to school) who studies what makes people attracted to each other. His name is Robert Greene and he writes on this blog.
He’s won awards and been on the best sellers list quite a few times. He’s been featured in some of the best seminars and workshops in the nation, all over the news and radio, and been interviewed countless times.
So, when he talks or writes, I listen.
He wrote a book a few years ago called The Art of Seduction and he talks about things in there that I use when I write my emails to women.
Here are the highpoints:
You want to be interested in her, but not TOO interested.
(There is a fine line between being challenging while still showing attraction)
She wants to win you over.
(Women want to feel like they are an irresistible source of seduction that you can’t resist. And while you might have been hesitant at first, she has won you over)
Women are attracted to men who are confident and not conceited.
(Nothing we don’t know already, and I’ll show you in a second how you can do that with your messages)
How to write an email that gets a response
What I’m going to do for you today is show you a message I wrote to a really attractive woman (part time model, 13 years younger than me, strong and confident) on POF and show you how I used Greene’s ideas.
Here’s the first email I sent her:
Grrr…. i just got on here today to find an email to send to a friend and ran across your profile. i’m more impressed by your corporate job, independence and hard-work than your modeling gig, though i’m sure that’s impressive too.
i’m also looking for one in 8 billion, though 4 me, i prefer women to either gender.
curious what you do for a living.
and i think i’m a damn good catch, and we might hit it off, or might not. but take a look at my profile and lets go from there. no worries if you don’t respond, but i WILL be a little disappointed if you don’t. after all, i am taking the time to write you and it’s not often you find a strong confident woman who knows what she wants in a man and seems to have what she wants in other areas of her life through hard work and focus.
also might be interesting to see what challenges you bring my way that your friends would tell me to RUN! 🙂 my guess is that i can keep up. 🙂
Now for why this kind of email works:
One, it’s true, it’s real. I really did just log into my account to find an email for a friend, that friend is YOU. And I was in a big hurry so I didn’t bother capitalizing and I let some grammar go.
That can be both good and bad. Good because it shows I’m interested, but not THAT interested. After all, if I was really trying to impress her, I would’ve fixed all that grammar.
But this is bad because some women will get immediately turned off if you don’t follow the rules.
Also, it’s important that you know that I followed this message up with another one right after that said:
that is supposed to say that i prefer women rather than any gender, so it should say “4 for me”. and I know my verbs didn’t all conjugate perfectly, but noticed after I sent it. in a hurry. enjoy!
Second, and this is true of your profile and other messages too, not just your first online dating first email…
I show her that I read her profile and said I value the things that she values about herself. This is an application of what we talked about yesterday.
It also follows what Greene says about letting her win us over. We were busy, but were SO impressed with her profile that we HAD to write her.
Third, when I say I’m a good catch, I’m letting her know that I value myself and I’m confident.
I say in the next sentence that I’ll be fine if she’s not interested. This also shows that I’m confident…
…But that I’ll be disappointed if she doesn’t email me back. This is a powerful statement. People DO NOT want to disappoint other people.
If I have done a half decent job in my message to her, she will respond just because she doesn’t want to disappoint me.
Fourth, at the end of my message I challenge her to a little game of chase. And like Greene says, women love that game, as long as you let them catch you so they “win”.
What you can do now
So, after this rather long post, I have two things for you. First, I’d like you to take the message I have for you here today and the one from yesterday, and write a couple of emails to women.
Choose women you’d consider to be out of your league, and women you’d be interested in dating… then see what happens! My guess is that at least 1 in 4 will email you back.
You can either send your messages to the girls right away, or email them to me for my thoughts first.
And even if it’s been awhile since this was posted, feel free to send me your message, I do this to help you out. If I have time, I’ll help for sure. Can’t hurt to ask.
Second, I’d like you to take a look at the messages you’ve been sending to women, and see where you could have used some of these principles to make your messages better.
And if the girls is really hot, send her another message using what we have in these last 2 posts.
Oh, and if you have time, take a look at this interview with Robert Greene. He DOES NOT talk or look like you might expect him to, but his information is great. The guy is a genius.
I just put together a page for you with my best posts on online dating emails. Take a look if you have any doubts about what pictures work and which ones don’t.