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Monday, October 09, 2017 by Deta
The Bible says in 2 Peter 1:3-4 “His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us to His own glory and excellence, by which He has granted to us His precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire” (ESV).
There is power in God’s Word – power to transform lives! It is good for dating couples to spend time reading the Bible together, but just as there are physical boundaries in dating, there necessarily are spiritual boundaries too.
Think about it: when you get married and you and your sweetheart settle in at night for a couple’s devotional time where you snuggle, exchange prayer needs, read the Bible together, and then pray together (and for each other), will you want to visualize him or her having done the same intimate spiritual bonding with previous boyfriends or girlfriends?
Here’s a rule of thumb: if its spiritual bonding you wouldn’t do with a friend, don’t do it with a boyfriend or girlfriend. I love my friends, but I’m sure I won’t find myself cuddling with them at night and reading a couple’s devotional on the Song of Solomon (whoa… awkward).
On the flip side, I doubt you would be upset visualizing your sweetheart having read the book of James with a classmate (guy or girl) in a public library or café for the purpose of studying God’s Word and not emotionally connecting.
So, under what circumstance is it appropriate to read the Bible with a boyfriend or girlfriend?
First of all let’s tackle the where and when. Reading the Bible together sounds like it would be the safest activity in the world, but don’t be fooled. Doing anything alone (e.g. empty house, secluded room of a building, etc.) while dating can invite unnecessary temptation into your relationship. Remember, no matter how much you fill your mind with God’s Word, you are still a young person with hormones, and he or she is also a young person with hormones. Your fleshly nature will be tempted to become physically intimate if you make the conditions right and lock yourselves away from others. In fact, if you aren’t attracted to each other, it may be a sign that you should not pursue marriage. Marrying someone you are attracted to is not superficial – it’s good and necessary!
With the above being written, I’d recommend reading together during the day. Nighttime, even if you aren’t physically together, has a different feel to it. I can still remember talking on the phone late into the night and those conversations in the darkness were often more open and heavy. I probably told a lot of secrets about myself during those hours that would have been better left unsaid. The darkness seems to loosen our tongues and resolve. Reading the Bible together over the phone in the dim light of your rooms changes the dynamic. It’s going to be a more intimate experience than reading together at the park in the afternoon to the sound of children playing in the background.
Now let’s tackle the what. Certain parts of the Bible are steamy. Don’t believe me? Take a few minutes and read through Song of Solomon. This is one erotic book! In fact, Jewish boys were not allowed to read it until they came of age. I read somewhere that they had to be thirty before they could read it! Until you are engaged and very close to your wedding day (or maybe even until after you’re married!), I would recommend not studying the Song of Solomon together – especially in detail.
Couples devotionals should also be saved until engagement. Such devotionals are meant to bring a couple close together spiritually. Bible studies for dating couples – those that concentrate on getting to know each other, preparing for marriage, and topics that are important to couples in the dating stage of their relationship – are okay. Just be wise.
If one or both of you begin to feel like the topics covered are too intimate for your relationship at its current point, hold off on that area of study and bring it back out when you have both decided to get engaged (or married, depending on the topic).
If your boyfriend or girlfriend has a desire to read and study God’s Word, that is a great sign! You certainly don’t want to pursue a relationship with someone who has no interest in growing spiritually. After all, if you marry this person you will be either following (ladies) or leading (gentlemen) this person spiritually (Ephesians 5:22-32). Do you want to go where he’s leading? Do you believe she’ll follow you based on what you’ve witnessed thus far? Studying the Bible together is wonderful, just be sure to keep the study in public, preferably during the day, and study with him or her just the way you would with any other friend. ~smile~
How much spiritual intimacy do you find is created by reading the Bible together?